I recently published part 14 which you can read by clicking→ here ← if you haven’t read it yet . If you haven’t read part 1 yet please do so by clicking → here ←because the posts after part one are in reverse chronological order leading up to the events in part 1 and beyond. Some posts will display secular music to help set the tone for the post.
Sorry for the delay in between postings I needed to take a break and get back on the right track with God by taking time to reflect.
This post and the next few possible posts will be written in a different format to display the inner workings of God through the dialog of me and Jolene, the very woman who becomes my wife fourteen years later after my first marriage. (Yes we dated for fourteen years before we got married)
In part 14 I left off with the following
The next following week I started the job training and I met a young woman there that had a very familiar face but I couldn’t place were I had seen her before and little did I know at the time the Lord was going to show His love through her kind actions.
I was going on my second week of the job training and I hooked up with this other woman from the same class course, it was about another two weeks that went by when Jolene, worked up a enough courage to speak to me.I had my eye on her from the start but when she introduced her self to the class she stated she was married to one of the class participants, so when she spoke to me I tried avoiding her because I didn’t want any trouble from her husband, I already had enough drama on my life plate. I rudely avoided Jolene for another week and then one day she cut me off at the only door way to the class room trapping me in the class room. She told me then that I was hurting her feelings because of my rudeness and that she forgave me for hurting her feelings, then she asked me if I would like to join her because every day she goes to her favorite park to enjoy the scenery. I told her sure and when we got there she took out her Bible and asked me if I have heard about Jesus, and what had done for me. I told her I knew of Him, but we weren’t on the best of terms at the moment. She told that’s okay God still loves you and longs to have an ongoing relationship with you. I frankly thought she was a Jesus freak!.
I tried to avoid her in class and she knew I was. Then at another class section she walked up to me and said I need to tell you something hurtful, (Wait a minute what???) something hurtful that’s not Christian like. She proceeded to tell me that a woman claiming to be my wife had befriended my girlfriend and that they were plotting to have me thrown back in Jail. I couldn’t believe what I just heard; I wouldn’t believe what I just heard! so I asked my girlfriend and she told me it was a lie, but something didn’t settle well with her answer so I started to keep tabs on her I know (STALKER) but I needed to stay alerted I knew what my wife was capable of. After keeping tabs on her for a few weeks I found out my girlfriend lied to me because she was hanging out with me wife, at this point I became very hateful towards my girlfriend and I sat out to get revenge and send message back to my wife through my girlfriend not to mess with me, so I got a hold of some female gang members that I knew would do anything I asked of them.
So I did just that I cashed in my favors and asked them to beat up my girlfriend and have them tell her to tell my wife she was next if she didn’t stop. The day it was supposed to happen I told Jolene, not to be out side at a certain time because I didn’t what her to get hurt by mistake. So instead she did the unthinkable she distracted my girlfriend by leaving early to go have lunch off campus they were gone for the rest of day. I asked Belle, (Jolene’s nickname) why she betrayed me like that and she simply replied I didn’t betray you I saved you from going back to Jail. I said the following to her “Okay why? you don’t owe me anything let alone know me,” then she replied “correct I don’t owe you anything but God wanted to favor you through my actions” I was lost for words so I walked away and that was that; as time pressed on I started to watch her from my apartment fire escape because her apartment building was up the street from mine and I had a clear view of the front entrance door from the very top floor fire scape.
I saw her one day waiting outside so I rushed over there to talk to her and shortly after her so-called husband showed up, and got up in my face, I wasn’t the type to back down so I asked Belle, do you know him and she replied “yes he’s my fiance, I thought to myself wait what? fiance, and not your husband” the next following day I asked her at class why was she telling people that he was her husband and she replied its complicated. This caught my attention so I started to spy on them more that’s when I started to notice he was abusive towards her, but she had the attitude as long as he showed love towards her she would stay by his side.
Despite my track record with women I couldn’t stand a man who laid their hands on a woman, like I said before this man got up in my face and I wasn’t going to back down so I started to follow him taking notes of his activity’s when he wasn’t with Jolene, what I discovered I knew was going to hurt Jolene, very badly so I just kept it to myself and moved on then after 2 months went by I started to feel lonely even though I had a girlfriend, I mean I couldn’t get Jolene off my mind but I knew deep down she was out of my league and with my track record with women I knew I didn’t stand a chance with her because she was an elegant skinny attractive woman with class, 
don’t get me wrong I was a skinny attractive young man with no troubles getting a woman, back then I mean I had the attitude “I was gods gift to women.“
Like I said before Jolene had class and I was known for dating lose trashy type women. ( I mean “NO” disrespect to the Ladies) but I kept feeling like I needed a new wife and I wasn’t even divorced yet I felt like I was losing my identity so I wanted to recover my self by finding a wifey material type woman and Jolene, fit the bill. I started to feel like I could become her “Hero!” and save her from her abusive boyfriend and she would magically look past my blemishes and we would spend the rest of our lives happily together.
I started to hang out with Jolene, more and we read the Bible daily but she didn’t know at the time I was just tolerating the Bible studies just to be in her presence. Then after about 3 weeks my ex-girlfriend from job training class told my wife that I was growing close to Jolene, this made my wife jealous so she confronted Jolene telling her that she (my wife) was the only person that could have me. Okay my wife didn’t want me what a joke 
she just wanted me to be miserable. Jolene didn’t back down from my wife’s threats instead she kept hanging out with me then Jolene was befriended by a woman and after a while the woman started telling Jolene stay away from me because I was bad news and that she would become my next victim. Jolene asked me what all these rumors she heard was about, she wanted to know if they were true. I just replied it’s complicated and a long story and if I tell you, you’ll just be like the rest and leave, just like my friends left me at the curb after they found out.
Jolene replied I am not here to judge you and I have time tomorrow to listen, tomorrow came and it started raining heavy but she kept her promise and she meet me at the park. I thought to myself after five minutes of hearing what I have to say she’ll be regretting coming out in the rain. It continue to rain and she continued to stay. I thought wow this woman is staying out of kindness because she doesn’t want to be rude towards me, so I told her she didn’t have to stay and she kindly replied I want to stay. So I continued to tell her and she continued to listen and we parted ways later that day,and then I didn’t see her for a week or two. I thought to my self yep I knew it I scared her away. As time pressed on I spied on her boyfriend more and noticed he was dating my wife behind Jolene’s back. (My wife seek’d him out to get back at Jolene,) later that week I rang her apartment and asked her why she hasn’t spoken to me for a while she replied that her boyfriend beat her for hanging out with me. When heard he beat her I didn’t feel sorry for him anymore and I set forth and Jolene, to walk with me that I had something to show her which was him with one of his many girlfriends. but she remained with him, for a while longer and me and her went our separate ways for a bit. (The story doesn’t stop there!!!)
Tune into the next chapter to find out what happens next. I also encourage you to share the Testimony page with others so they can know the Love God has for them.
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There is always a spot for every human and the time came when both of you had to have your eyes opened by each other, sure it was under some very unpleasant situations, and with the people that it involved, but it had to happen. Although it was a very misguided and misleading situation that you thought Jolene had disappeared, for the time she did there was a reason, and it also strengthened you for the future. It is never easy for a situation such as two people like this where one is in an abusive relationship and another just getting out of a any type of relationship of trouble, struggles, IE mine and your mothers http://thoughtzfrommyheart.wordpress.com/2011/01/02/the-wife-of-a-lifetime/. In the beginning it wasn’t easy, and although you have dated 14 years, marriage is totally different and the old saying is, ” The First Three Years are The Hardest”. Granted it isn’t (baseball) being together (unmarried), But marriage is a totally different (playingfield). Guaranteed in time things will fall into place and some of the thing that you two disagree about know will be a laugh later.
It is amazing how God’s fingerprints are all over your life, even when you did not know him. He pursues and draws us with a heart of love and compassion. Your life story really begs for publication in book form.
Hello admin, you are the fourth person to suggest a book option.
I am in the works of writing a e-book about spiritual warfare and will be including pieces of my testimony within the e-book. I’m also planning on looking into a soft cover book option for my full testimony story as well once I am finished sharing here on the D-A blog.
Thank you for your wonderful comment and support for D-A
Thank you. There is nothing like confirmation! God is on the move in your life and the momentum continues. He is not looking for perfect people but those who depend on him.