First of all I apologize if I offended anyone with the all caps title since all caps is considered yelling over the net, I chose to write in all caps because I wanted to grab attention to the post. I would also like to thank everyone that read the post as well took time to leave comments, and like the post, from the bottom of our hearts my wife and I thank you for your support and prayers.
Death Has Come Upon Us Like A Flood
Yesterday my step dad Balding2soon left this video in the comment section and I would like to take a moment to post the video before I get started.
The video above got me thinking as a Christian how important it is to be bold and spread the truth about God to the lost souls because in a blink of an eye another soul is gone from earth.
My mother-in-law’s death really engrained within me just how short our lives our here on earth is and just how important it is not to harvest resentment towards others but instead have a heart of forgiveness and love towards others that hurt us. This statement rings true and loud to mine and my wife’s heart, because of the out falling we had with her birth mom before God brought us back together many years later.
I Need To Start In The Past To Understand The Present
This post is not to bash her mothers character but instead to display the hidden inner workings of God through all that is mentioned below. The following below is from what I was told from my wife and other people who know what happen to my wife when she was young.
When my wife’s mother found out she was pregnant there was problems on the home front and my wife’s father left her mother for another woman, this left her mother feeling quite upset and she gained the mind-set she didn’t want the baby (Jolene) anymore so she threw her self down a flight of stairs, starved herself, drank heavy, and did drugs, after my wife was born she was known as baby “Jane Doe” until her mother heard the Dolly Parton, song Jolene, and she admitted many years later in-front of me that she named her daughter Jolene out of spit of the theme of the song. (Edit I forgot to mention the other reason was because my wife Jolene has ivory skin and emerald green eyes and the reason she said the other because at the time Baby Jolene was a reminder of her mothers cheating Husband)
My wife Jolene, remembers around the age of 1 being thrown down a flight of stairs and by the age of 2 being taken outside in her diaper in the middle of winter and the door being locked behind her and that she took shelter in an empty fridge for hours, She was also molested countless times by her mother’s new boyfriend.by the age of 5 she was placed in a foster home and by the age of 6 she became adopted by another family.
Fast forwarding A Bit
Jolene was 19 when I met her I was coming out of a broken marriage and she was entrapped in an abusive relationship, and I couldn’t stand by and watch her go through that abuse, so I became determine to befriend her and expose his nasty deeds he was doing with other women behind her back. After he left to go to boot camp we got together after a year went by she became in contact with her birth mom and she suggested hearing her ex’s side of things with the molestation situation. I kept pleading with Jolene’ not to go through with it because she was embarking on opening a door of hurt and many other things that she wouldn’t be able to close afterwards.
Shortly after that meetup with her childhood assailant Jolene, and her birth mother had a falling out and her mother threw up in Jolene’s face you were a whore as child and stole my man and you’re surely a whore now because of the part of town you live in, this hurt Jolene greatly, and almost a year went by during that time Jolene’s adoptive parents told me you cannot believe a word that comes out of her birth mom’s mouth she is a very nasty person to be around, after what I witness I agreed with them. about 2 yrs went by and Jolene reached out again to try to build that mother and daughter bond but she kept getting hurt because it was one-sided, then one day her birth mom called the house and spoke with my mother. Jolene picked up the phone and listen in and heard her birth mom say I don’t want to be her mom I rather be a friend since I didn’t raise her all these years could you please explains this to her (My Wife) because she is slow due to brain damage. Hearing what she heard greatly hurt her and Jolene separated from her birth mom, in 2006 her birth mother was diagnosed with cancer, late 2006 she tried to reach out to her daughter but at this point Jolene became fed up, Jolene’s mother tried many more years to reach out but Jolene made it nearly impossible to be reached.
Then after all the years went by since 2006 her mother reached out through an anonymous person that knew my step family, and my step grandma called me and told me that her mom had cancer so I investigated the information I was given and found out it was true my wife at the time was down the street watching her friends kids.
When she got home I broke the news to her and told her your mom is in the hospital I had someone call up there and speak with a nurse and that nurse confirmed she was being treated for cancer. Jolene was reluctant to reach out,I told her we’re Christians now and I sense the Holy Spirit guiding my heart to tell you to put the gavel down and give her another chance.
So Jolene decided she would do just that so we went to the hospital and her mom proceed to tell Jolene that the cancer had moved to her brain, they sat and had a heart to heart and forgave each other for their wrong doings over the years. We went one more time to visit her mom in the Hospital, and then we got married shortly afterwards. The church gave us a dvd to give to her mother since she couldn’t make it to the wedding then one month to the exact calendar date of our wedding I and Jolene, went and visit with her mother and watched the dvd at that time we were told she had 1-2 moths left to live. That would be the very last time she would see her mother alive because shortly after that visit Jolene’s mother moved up north to have 24hr care by family and we had no transportation to get there plus her mom didn’t want Jolene to remember her during her dying moments. Yesterday before church we received a call that things were turning for the worst (yesterday’s call was about 2 weeks after our visit) Jolene called back after church and said her good bye’s and told her mom Jesus was by her side and that she could talk to him even though she was on a ventilator before she hung up her aunt said we will be pulling the plug tonight or tomorrow, at 10:20pm yesterday night the call came in your mother passed away peacefully.
Now that she has passed away I am not sure if she’s in Heaven or hell she had the belief that she would be in heaven because she was a good person, I and Jolene didn’t share much about Jesus, with her because of her health because the slightest stress would make her brain swell and we also thought we had more time to gradually speak about the Lord with her, We tried our best to have Christ like actions with her and we gave her a bible and letter that we give everyone when we hand out free Bibles. We always made sure to pray with her before we left but I cannot shake the feeling that we could have done more and that we took the coward road with witnessing more to her mother.
Dear Heavenly Father I come before you humbly and ask of you to hold my wife and I one moment longer while we try to regain our strength to stand again. The video below explains how we wish we had one more moment with her before she left. Now that she is gone we will hold dearly and truly the things she has recently taught us through our conversations, her struggle with cancer and her recent departure from earth. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for mustering the strength through your battle with cancer to be the birth mother figure Jolene always longed for over the years.
Thank you for taking the time to read my latest post
Did you find this post interesting ? How about checking out the archives or trying your luck with a random post never know what you will come across to read!!! S^K (†Souljahz For Christ Ministry†) Souljahz 4 Christ Ministry Motto: God’s faithful foot Souljahz charging the front lines of Spiritual Warfare,To seek out the lost and hurt souls to display God’s Love for humanity. (Ezekiel 37) God Bless,